13 Love Part 1

“Everything has its own Personal Legend—each of us a path that leads to our own destiny and personal greatness.”

The Alchemist

When you are loved, you no longer fear change nor are you afraid of change.  When you love you are willing to embrace the sacrifice of change and make the sacrifice to change.  When you live a life of love, you are not bound to who you are but to who you will become.  Love transforms.  It leaves nothing it touches as it was before its caress.

What makes love so dangerous? 

The more you love someone the more that person can hurt you.  When you give your heart away to someone, you entrust it to that person’s care.  Your beloved can pretty much do whatever he or she wants with it.  You are left vulnerable and defenseless.     

Given all the problems love can create, why do we keep longing for it?

If you had the chance to erase all the memories of your greatest love to be free of the pain of losing it, would you?

What if you never find love?

When love does not come to you, it breaks your heart, but when you do not give love away, it hardens your heart.  

One thing stranger than our need to be loved is our need to love.  We are designed for love.

12 Female Destiny Part 6

Expectations of Males

How has your experience with the first man in your life—your father—affected your expectations of males or the way you relate to them?

What, to you, is the challenge of walking out into the world alone and unattached to a male?

You can’t have any relationship without trust.  Trust is the root from which love springs and continues to grow. 

How do you answer the question “Can I trust him?”

More telling than whether a male is attracted to you or likes your family or admires your intelligence is his enjoyment of you.  Your sense of being enjoyed tells you whether you can trust him.  

Does this male just plain like you for who you are?  

Your adventuresome spirit may be an irritation to some, or your quietness may be misunderstood by many, but this male enjoys those kind of things about you and sees in them real value and worth.

When have you felt enjoyed by a male for who you are, and how would you describe the experience?  What kind of impact did it have on you?

Female Destiny Part 5 #11

(If you are new to this blog or have not read them all, they are in reverse order from the last blog to the first blog.  I recommend reading and pondering them in order so as to follow the path of purpose of this journey of your HEART and Life Story.  Robersonchip40@gmail.com.)

Some of the memories and images that may affect the way you see men.

Can you remember sitting on your father’s lap?

Did you, like so many girls, get your dad to teach you how to shoot a basketball or throw a softball?

Who was the first boyfriend who brought you flowers?

Was there ever a male you loved who held you when you cried—and just holding you was purely enough?

There is no more an important man in the picture

than your FATHER

Even if you never knew him, or if he left your life through death or desertion, your father is the first man in your life.

You look into your father’s eyes as a mirror that tells you, you are lovely and valuable as a daughter and as a emerging woman.

What you did or did not experience with your father shaped your hope for what you could expect to experience with any man thereafter.

There are women these days who by the age of 13 lost their fathers through death or divorce and now realize how that loss propelled them into the arms of whatever guys crossed their paths.

How would you describe the males to whom you have been attracted?  What is good or bad about it?