(If you are new to this blog or have not read them all, they are in reverse order from the last blog to the first blog. I recommend reading and pondering them in order so as to follow the path of purpose of this journey of your HEART and Life Story. Robersonchip40@gmail.com.)
Normal adolescence is one of the stormiest times in the cycle of life. Emotional upheavals and mood swings are part of adolescence. It is normal for an adolescent to abhor their parents’ presence one day and desire heart-to-heart talks with them the next day.
Distancing from parents is a normal part of adolescence. The peer group is the vehicle by which adolescents achieve distancing. Talking endlessly to one’s friends is a way to feel wanted and connected.
It is in adolescence that we begin to act out our original pain and unmet childhood needs.
It is a time when culture
suggests to girls various stereotypes, and each comes with its own codes of dress and behavior.
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Get the bronzer and the highlights, the seductive look, what Aunt Betty calls “bedroom eyes,” and the body, toned and shapely. But what if I just want to cuddle after a good cry, when my mascara bleeds, and my T-shirt is baggy and rumpled? Can I still be taken seriously, appreciated, and valued? And then, what if I gain weight and my boyfriend thinks I’m fat? Am I a bad woman? Am I still feminine? |
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I work out, run with anyone who can keep up, wear a sports bra as the undergarment of choice, never cry, eat organic and shout during sporting events. But what if I get teary-eyed or want to show how hurt someone make me? Can I share my feelings? What if I want to wear a skirt or eat fast food for a week? Can I without being dismissed as too girly or “letting myself go”? |
I wear glasses, hang out at coffee shops, carry a book to all events, ask penetrating questions, debate intellectually with the guys and study. But what if I want to shout about my anger, cry over my losses, read a romance novel or a fashion magazine? Can I still be respected by men? Can I still respect myself?
You are quick to take your cues from others. But regardless of who put you into that stereotype, you have chosen to keep it; maybe you fear the void it will leave in your life if it’s gone.
In Hollywood a girl's virtue is much less important than her hairdo. Hollywood’s a place where they’ll pay you a thousand dollars for a kiss and fifty cents for your soul.
Marilyn Monroe
What is your stereotype?
Who are you without that stereotype?
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