I have friends who have virtually sold their souls hoping to be loved. Some mask their pain through indifference, but others through false intimacy. We all long to belong. We all need to be connected to something bigger than ourselves. Whether we like it or not, much our self-worth is rooted in how others feel or think about us. If we belong to no one, we begin to feel that we are worthless. Because of this, we will do almost anything to belong to someone or to belong to something.
Love is not about how many people we have used, but about how much we have cherished one person. I’ve come to find over time that players are the ones who are most afraid. They are afraid to love, and so they make it a game. They’re terrified of loving deeply, and so they keep everything superficial. I think deep inside they wonder whether any girl could actually love them if she really knew who he was.
If you really believe you are capable of loving deeply and profoundly, what in the world keeps you from it?
Is it that your heart so longs for love and longs to love,but you’ve settled for so much less?
Then there are the people who believe in love but do not believe that they are worthy of it. You find them moving from one destructive relationship to another. It’s almost impossible to understand why they choose to stay in those relationships. You can’t talk them out of it. If you dare say anything about their partners, they are the first to defend them. They are held hostage by their need for love. They are made victims because they don’t believe they deserve love, so they settle for whatever they can get.
Human beings fear almost nothing more than being alone.
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